I’m finally going to get married. I’ve been waiting a very long time for this. Longer than I thought I would have to wait. My plan was to be married with children ten years ago. But God had different plans for me. Even though I thought I was ready to meet my partner for life, I really wasn’t. Also, I didn’t meet any guys who pushed me to be ready for such a commitment. Who I did meet were guys who helped me get to know myself, through the many unsuccessful relationships I had with them. I don’t regret anything. I’ve had the awesome chance to meet many interesting souls and very special people who I’m thankful to for having taught me so much about myself.
Before having this perspective, I mostly felt grief over not having met the mate of my soul. It felt like no matter what I did or focused on, I felt incomplete in some inexplicable way. That was grievous for me. After enough dejection I finally came to a new reality.
The new reality was that my life was my own. My life was not going to jump start once I met Mr. Right. There was a part of me that was waiting for my soul mate to hurry up and meet me so that my life could begin. I mean I was really believing in my soul mate to meet with me so that we can start our lives together. All of the wonderful things I had planned!
Since in the new reality my life was my own, it meant I had to do life all by myself. This was a wide awakening, because I had been under the illusion that a prince needed to come into my life in order for it to begin.
While it was hard to let go of my illusions of the prince on on a white horse, I was guided to understand that this was something I had to do if I was going to be the person I aspired to be.
I decided to set forth on a path to focus on me, myself and I where I would focus on further stabilizing my life. I let go of wondering whether I was ever going to meet my soul mate. I decided that I would just let life happen. I concluded that if I never met my soul mate then there would be a good reason for it. I tried instead to trust God.
From that time to now, getting ready to be married, things have come full circle … at least until the next part of my life. There’s always so much to learn about. For now, here is some clarity around what a soul mate is versus a twin flame?
There are different views on what soul mates are. Always go with what feels right inside.
We all want to meet our “Soul Mate”, but maybe we already have and just don’t know it. See, a soul mate is not necessarily by definition a romantic love partner. A soul mate might just be a cat or a dog … or your best friend. Soul mate might not be the Knight in Shining Armor, but a steady companion. A soul mate may or may not cause sensations in the loins, but will certainly lighten the heart and brighten the eyes. Soul mates tend to travel meandering paths alongside of each other until the day those paths actually cross. From the beginning, their bond is united and strong. It’s a fortress kind of strong; not easily defeated. The dynamo-of-a-union by definition withstands the test of time. It’s as forever as forever can be. No matter where or when in the universe, if it’s in the books to be with our soul mate, we will be, over and over and over again.
Most of the time, when we talk about meeting our Soul Mate, we actually mean our Twin Flame. A twin flame is a romantic partner and is your One. That special someone meant only for you, that one that you wait so long to meet, that one whom you’ve undergone lots to be with or that one that fits you like a glove, is most likely what you are referring to as your twin flame (aka twin soul).
With our twin flames there is definitely magnetism and the dynamics run high. The attraction may not be so easily explained. With twin flame partnerships, the strength of the bond really depends on the soul agreements we made before being born, our past lives and whatever lessons we have yet to learn. Relationships are one of the most important ways to learn about ourselves, about life, and about our purpose. So, it’s quite possible to feel as though we have met our twin flame (or flames) but we haven’t actually or perhaps we actually have, but the partnership is not eternal.
When we are ready we meet the One that truly holds the key that opens our heart. When we are ready, the eternity of this relationship depends on our continual willingness to open our hearts, keep growing, and learning tolerance.
Some ideas to help along your path as you seek out Love in the world:
We don’t find love. Love finds us.
It doesn’t always look the way we think it’s supposed to. If it does, be curious enough to question it.
We really do get what we need.
Vulnerability allows for the heart to continue to open; don’t be afraid to take some risks.
Let humility be your friend, if you do, your cup will always have room for more …
Recognize the possibility that you could not meet your Soul Mate / Twin Flame here on Earth, this time around. This can be a sad thought at first, however, each one of us has a unique life path and purpose that we are meant to discover. That path comes with many life lessons, opportunities to learn and to grow. It doesn’t always go the way we want it to, though, sincerely believe that if God has placed the desire of finding your twin flame in your heart, trust that it will come to pass.