The Universe can be funny. On one hand it’s often said that what we want we should go after, but sometimes when we go after what we want the Universe seemingly puts the breaks on with a screeching halt. You might be left lost thinking about what went wrong.
I’m not going to be able to tell you exactly what went wrong because sometimes shit just happens. But, there is another way to understand it, a broader way to perceive what happens when you really go after what you want.
I’m talking about going at your transformation or your healing process hard — the case of going at it hard.
For almost everything, there is a hard way and a soft way to approach things and the trickiest part of this is balancing when it’s time to go hard and when it’s time to go soft. If you’re like me, you have a tendency to go at your transformation or healing hard. You want to just bulldoze through what you have to do. You want to just move forward and ahead and knock out the changes that need to be made. You soldier up. You know it’s going to be hard and you’re ready for that. You adopt the mentality that you can’t lose, that you can’t be knocked. You adopt the mentality that you’re going to get what you don’t have because you just will. That’s going at it hard.
Going at it hard, when it comes to your healing and/or transformation is for the most part a positive, optimistic, and ready attitude to have. Overall, a positive, optimistic, and ready attitude will definitely help you move forward in your healing and transformation because hey, you’re going after what you want. But then, there’s the funny part. It’s that part where you’re doing all the right stuff yet somehow somewhere you’re tangled.
Isn’t it funny that as you’re going at it hard, your nice long reach hits a halting stop?! You were moving in the right direction in your transformation or healing but now you feel as though you can’t get anywhere, can’t move forward, and basically find yourself in a snafu of sorts. You’re lost. Thrown. You don’t know why you’re intended movements forward are suddenly backfiring.
The universe is putting the breaks on. Heed this message. The universe is putting the breaks on. Stop. Red light. Do not move forward at this time. The universe is putting the breaks on. Heed this message.
But you don’t want to just stop. You want to continue how you’ve been going. How else are you going to keep moving forward, right? How else are you going to transform? How else are you going to heal yourself or a situation?
The sage ones would say, be still. Be quiet. Just Be. You think you know the way to heal. You think you know the way to transform. You go at it hard because you’ve got the idea. This is good. This isn’t bad. But it’s also not the way. Not the way right now. Now, the way is for you to listen. Empty out of the mind of what you think you know and the ideas you have. Now, the way is for you to be awakened to your self. Now, is the way for you to be sensitive and open to another way, a way that is a new to you. The way of going at it soft.
If you go at your healing and/or transformation in a soft approach, that is to say, more relaxed, calm, open, flexible, vulnerable and trusting you can move forward. Stay loose and actually, you can move forward with less energy. Knowing how and when to incorporate a soft approach to situations you’re invested in is beneficial to growth, healing, and transformation especially in that it keeps you balanced. Maintaining or creating balance is a key component of a healing and/or transformation process.
Going at it soft may not be your first nature, so when you’re going hard at your transformation or healing and you hit a sudden breaking point, heed the universe’s message. Stop. Take some time to catch your breath. Redirect your energy. Go the soft way. And of course, use meditation, use Reiki, use Angel medicine to get you to the soft way you need at the moment.
Be conscious of this kind of a thing happening. Stay vigilant as you pursue your transformations and healing. More times than not, you’ll discover that going at it soft is the solution to springing forward again.
Where do you experience yourself going at it hard to a point where you stagnate?