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Multipotentiality and Your Life Purpose

May 19th, 2014

image of 3 labelsI’m not usually into labels. I usually feel that labelling things can be harmful because our minds go to automatic default and suddenly the mind and thoughts are in a box. So for me, labels can end up being like containers that box up people’s experiences, confining them.  Though, what labels intend to do is define unknowns.  Labels want to be helpful to us through providing us with a definition or framework for something  atypical.  That being said, I want to introduce a label that could be helpful to you. It can help you embrace more of who you are. It’s called multipotentiality.

Multipotentiality is an educational and psychological word that describes you if you are gifted with multiple potential. How do you know if you are a multipotential type of person? Before answering that, let’s back up to why I’m covering this in the first place.

Many of the people that I’m so lucky to meet and know, are brilliant people gifted in many diverse areas who aren’t always aware of their special qualities for lots of reasons. Much of my purpose is to help women discover  for themselves just how truly gifted they are. They don’t realize their gifts because they’ve hardly been acknowledged for them and instead tend to feel sad, depressed, bored or overwhelmed with their life (which includes their work) because deep inside they know they should be doing something else or living another way.

So many multi-talented women are feeling stuck because they’ve found themselves in a box when they really want to have meaningful joyful lives. I totally get that. For a long time I was always trying to fit myself into boxes. I thought I had to. I thought it was the only way. Since those days, I’ve discovered that there are many ways to a meaningful, joyful, loving life. Sometimes, one of the ways is to get real with yourself and realize that you are not one to be in the box. It’s alright if you’re not for the box.

So the reason for this post on multipotentiality is to help women like you –  independent, savvy,  creative and resourceful women with multiple interests and passions discover that you are built to be exactly who you are. And that it’s something to feel really good about.  If you can identify with being a multipotential, start to swim with the current instead of swimming upstream. Life is hard enough already. Learning about yourself and how you can create optimal conditions for yourself  will prove to be very helpful.

How do you know if you are a multipotential?

  • Do you have or know someone who has many interests across different areas?
  • Have you ever told anyone or has anyone ever told you, “Jack of all trades, master of none?”
  • Is it hard for you to choose on what you want to spend your time doing because you have so many options? And while you like having  many options sometimes it can be stressful deciding which to spend time in?
  • Do you ever wonder if you have or ever had ADHD?
  • Do you ever get  bummed out when you think you’re not doing everything you can do, like you’re not employing all of your abilities?
  •  Do you feel like because you can’t focus on one thing, you must be confused?
  • Have you ever considered yourself a Renaissance women?
  • Are you or someone you know intently and intensely curious?
  • Do you feel like you could pretty much learn anything?
  • Do you love to tinker around?

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The truth is, multipotential is defined as the state of having many exceptional talents, any one or more of which could make for a great career for that person. Gifted children often (though of course not always) have multipotentiality. Their advanced intellectual abilities and their intense curiosity make them prime candidates for excelling in multiple areas. – Tamara Fisher in Education Week

Everyone always tells you it’s better to focus in one direction. It’s better to be good at one thing than not very good at a bunch of things. But for a multipotential person, there is true love in learning and expressing many things. The idea of it being “better” to be good at one thing versus not very good at a bunch of things has always struck me as very black and white, narrow thinking.

Who says that if you’re into a bunch of things  you’re not going to be very good at any of them? More importantly, why does being “good, great, or perfect” matter so much?

For a multipotential, the pursuit  isn’t so much about excellence as it is about wonder, exploration, expression, growth and even adventure. I’ve found it a big relief to forego the measuring of excellence and to learn how to be in the present moment with whatever I’m doing, experiencing enjoyment and feeling alive.

Having so many interests that you can pursue and actually be pretty darn good at can feel like a blessing and a curse. But stress more on how it’s a blessing.

Here’s What You Can Do 

Journaling Exercise: Ask yourself, “how are all my interests and ideas a blessing to me?”  “How might this be a blessing to others?”  Take the time to sit and ponder these two question for about 20 – 30 minutes and journal what you come up with.

Spiritual Practice: Practice believing that you are super- blessed to have so many fruitful ideas, interests and abilities with (what I call) Ping Pong Think. For example, pretend your mind is the ping pong table and your playing the house which is your mind, okay?

Instead of accepting a cursed mentality “serve” a blessed mentality right back to your mind, the way it is in ping pong. It’ll be like:

Cursed Mentality: “What’s wrong with me? I can’t settle into anything for the life of me. I’m lame for not being able to be as single minded as my friends. Maybe I need to be more like them. I don’t know what I’m doing.” 

Blessed Mentality: “There is nothing wrong with me. This is the way God Universe has designed me. I guess I’m unique because I’m curious about life. I want to spend my days truly living. I’m energized and my mind is illuminated. I’m free to explore life and myself. I know that’s what I want to do.”

Tip Time!

Tip#1:  Keep practicing Ping Pong Think and you’ll start to believe, know, and trust that you are blessed to be this way, not cursed. You are gifted with the specific way you light up.

Tip #2: Keep lighting yourself up! It’ll enrich your life and the life of others who know you.

Tip #3: Go with the current and you’ll start to see a pattern of interconnectedness in all that you do. Don’t worry, there is definitely a single thread running through all of your pursuits, but you must learn to swim with the current not upstream.

Tip #4: If you’re stressed or overwhelmed about finding your purpose, it won’t matter so much where you start but that you start. Remember: there is a reason you’re designed in this special way. So, take the road trip of your life and set out to discover what all your potential is. You’ll find meaning, joy, peace and love and as if that weren’t enough, you’ll get that deep sense of purpose you’re looking for.

 

Three Ways You Can Start Living On Purpose Now:

  • Accept that you are not one to be in the box (and that is a wonderful thing!)
  • Accept that you are blessed to be able to be pretty darn good at anything you do.
  • Pursue your multiple interests right now (pull the plug on the boob tube and play the ukulele!)

 

And one last thing I’d like to leave you with … live in joy, always be you and believe that you’re destined.

What Is A Calling?

April 1st, 2014

What the heck is a calling? You can google it and you’ll get something like this:

A calling is a strong  urge toward a particular way of life or career or vocation.

Oprah refers to it as a whisper.

I describe a calling as a very persistent nagging feeling that refuses to permanently go away.

Even if we know the definition, it can be hard to know if we have a calling.

Without thinking about it too hard, do you hear a whisper?
Do you have a strong urge towards some particular way in your life?
Do you have a nagging sense that looms over your day to day?

If your answered YES then you in fact have a calling.  Yup. You can begin to accept the fact that you have a calling.  Actually, even if you answered NO , you have a calling. This is because everyone has calling. Everyone is called to something.  But, not everyone knows it and not everyone cares.

 Here are 5 reasons for why you might care about your calling:
  1. You feel almost haunted by a nagging feeling trying to tell you something about the direction of your life.
  2. You pretty much know that you aren’t doing what you really want to be doing or what you feel you should be doing.
  3. You don’t feel satisfied with your life even though you think you should be.
  1. You know what you’re being called to do. !Yay! But, you’re not doing it because where would you start?
  1. You believe you have a calling but you don’t know what it is.

 

If  you’re feeling any of the 5 reasons above, trust you are being called to something greater. Hearing a calling can be scary. Answering that call is even scarier. But the thing is, scared as you are, the call doesn’t go away. It’s like a credit collector! Okay, bad analogy. What I’m saying is that unless you answer the call you’ll never shake that feeling, you’ll always wonder what if, you risk living with regret and  you’ll never know how awesome you really are. It’s important to face the music and get real with your calling, what you’re being called to do and what the calling is.

I heard the ringing of my call at a very early age. I was very scared. It took me a long time before I could even accept that I was being called to something. I tried ignoring it. It took me an even longer time to learn what I was being called to. The journey has been amazing. I’ve always believed that it’s  God calling me.

Do you hear the “ringing” of your call? Do you know what you’re being called to? Who do you think is calling you?

Why Am I Sick?

August 22nd, 2013

Do you ever wonder why you get sick when you’re an otherwise healthy person? I do. I  wonder  it every time I get sick. You might be wondering what there is to wonder about, I’m just sick. Get over it.

I do get over it, but when I end up with a bad head cold, pick up a flu bug from who knows where or end up with some random infection that from one day to the next lays me out for 3-5 days, it makes me wonder. Makes me wonder why I’d get sick when I’m an otherwise healthy person.  I realize that we are all vulnerable, but as an energy healer, I try  to connect the dots that are hidden from plain sight.

I feel it’s my responsibility to my self to wonder why my body is out of balance. What factors could have made me susceptible or vulnerable to attack?  I’ve got to study myself as objectively as possible so that I can learn from “pit falls” and improve myself where I can. It’s not easy to be objective about oneself,  but a good practical starting place is simply wondering: “Why am I sick? Why isn’t my body working  for  me?”

I don’t know about you, but I don’t usually get a little bit sick. I usually go through a full cycle of sickness. This means I feel the onset of not feeling well, start to take care of it with natural remedies, take it easy, and then I start to really not feel well.  I can’t do anything until I’m at least 75-80% of my usual wellness. Since I can’t do much, I’ve got an abundance of time … to simply rest.

Rest? What’s that? I feel useless even though there  is a part of me that knows that I shouldn’t feel that way. Resting is so good for us and unfortunately very underrated. If you’re anything like me, you rest, give in to your body, and all the while your  mind is thinking what a shame it is that you’re resting but not even feeling well.

You think about all the stuff you could be doing.  “Damnit. I could be brushing my dog’s teeth right now.”

I notice in my thoughts and somewhere in my feelings that my “resting” is only tolerable because I’m sick.  There’s a resistance that I experience. I don’t want to give in to the needs of my body. I don’t want to let it slow me or get me down. … But it does… Then my mind goes. Following in the same order as my body, my mind seems to need rest, too. Too much thinking and my head might float off. I can’t focus. Not on a single thing. It can be too hard to even read.

Still, my mind manages to sneak in another thought and passes it off as a feeling.  What I’m feeling is: ‘This sucks.’

Wondering and observing myself  from a bird’s eye view provides insights. Objectively speaking, it would seem that I don’t generally allow myself (body and mind) to rest as much as I may need to, except for when I am sick. So maybe what’s going on here is that my mind grows weary, my body gets weak and I get sick because that’s the only time it’s acceptable to me to get rest. Getting sick seems to give me “permission” to  a) get the rest my body and mind need and b) help me to get rid of accumulated toxins.  “This [sick] sucks”. Who said that?

Getting sick is actually a real help.  Getting sick is very often a healing in the happening. Dare I say that getting sick  is a good thing? There’s a balance, a rhythm to everything. It’s natural. The body will seek to regulate homeostasis  (internal equilibrium) on its own.  The job of our selves is to let it happen. Let it be. Dive into rest. Give sick some space.

From getting sick, I realize that I’ve been pushing myself too hard. Getting sick has told me that I’m out of harmony. It reminds me to be respectful (and even gentle) with myself. It tells me that I’ve fallen out of body mind connection. I haven’t been “listening”.  So now it’s time to hit a reset button.

After being sick for a week, I feel renewed. I’m ready again to greet my days with full attention. I’m inspired again. I can go on; I’m running clear energy again.

How do you feel when you’re sick? How about after you’re sick? Do you ever wonder why you caught a tough cold or a dogged virus? Besides feeling like crap, what else do you have room to think and feel during this forced time of inactivity? Do you wonder how you might prevent yourself from getting sick in the first place?

If you haven’t ever wondered like this about being sick just try it. You’ll gain some valuable insight into yourself. Knowing how you work, what works best for you and what your optimal functioning settings are can be so very valuable because that stuff helps you to succeed in whatever your personal goals and big dreams are. From gathering basic insight (kinda like data), you can make personal adjustments that will better tune you to what you want in your life. So take a stab at it once and then do it again if you gain awareness you didn’t have before.

Go ‘head. Unlock your heart’s aspirations through self transformations one situation at a time!