Becoming Aware of Self Comparison: Is Comparing Yourself Hurting You? Whenever I compare myself to others, it usually leaves me feeling bad. Rarely does it leave me feeling good. Feeling good is when I’m comparing myself to someone I admire and respect. They have demonstrable traits that I can learn from. They are healthy examples for me. They are visual representations of what’s admirable and an aspiration. Who they are does not make me feel like I’m less or that I’m not good enough. The times I feel bad are when I’m comparing myself to someone who I don’t even relate to. Here's what I mean: Superficially, I may relate to the person. For example, say they identify as a female, like I do. Or say they identify as a woman and a Latina, again like I do. Or say they are a … [Read more...] about Becoming Aware of Self Comparison: Is Comparing Yourself Hurting You?
I never thought about loving myself. Have you? Not too long ago, my life started to take a nose-dive. We're talking a downward spiral. I had this knowing that somehow, I was losing the lifestyle I'd been living for awhile. Like it was time to let it go. 😧 In a dark night of the soul, I could actually see more clearly than I’d been able to see in quite a while. I could see that everything I was doing was motivated to take care of others, first. I put everyone around me ahead of myself. It was: first take care of others, first make sure everyone else is good, first love others and then maybe me. Man. What the heck happened? I fell in between the cracks. How? I didn’t even notice. 😔 I realized that I was thinking, doing and going for everyone else and what … [Read more...] about 5 Reasons Why Self Love Is Essential