Becoming Aware of Self Comparison: Is Comparing Yourself Hurting You? Whenever I compare myself to others, it usually leaves me feeling bad. Rarely does it leave me feeling good. Feeling good is when I’m comparing myself to someone I admire and respect. They have demonstrable traits that I can learn from. They are healthy examples for me. They are visual representations of what’s admirable and an aspiration. Who they are does not make me feel like I’m less or that I’m not good enough. The times I feel bad are when I’m comparing myself to someone who I don’t even relate to. Here's what I mean: Superficially, I may relate to the person. For example, say they identify as a female, like I do. Or say they identify as a woman and a Latina, again like I do. Or say they are a … [Read more...] about Becoming Aware of Self Comparison: Is Comparing Yourself Hurting You?
Self Growth & Development
I never thought about loving myself. Have you? Not too long ago, my life started to take a nose-dive. We're talking a downward spiral. I had this knowing that somehow, I was losing the lifestyle I'd been living for awhile. Like it was time to let it go. 😧 In a dark night of the soul, I could actually see more clearly than I’d been able to see in quite a while. I could see that everything I was doing was motivated to take care of others, first. I put everyone around me ahead of myself. It was: first take care of others, first make sure everyone else is good, first love others and then maybe me. Man. What the heck happened? I fell in between the cracks. How? I didn’t even notice. 😔 I realized that I was thinking, doing and going for everyone else and what … [Read more...] about 5 Reasons Why Self Love Is Essential
Jesus has been known to say several times that "You must lose your life to find your life, and if you do not let it go, you will never find it." Writing this we're on the eve of Good Friday, too. Makes me think about how Christ had to lose his life to find his life, the everlasting one. First we die before we truly live. We're most used to hearing we live then we die. When we're living from only one aspect of ourselves, we just live and die. It's very true. However, as we go through spiritual growth and personal development, we begin to integrate ourselves. We might have to die or lose the identity we've had for a long time. We might have to experience a great personal transformation and be reborn to a new reality, one where we're not who we used to be. With the veil of … [Read more...] about Letting Go and Finding Life
This morning I read an excellent tid-bit from Super Coach Michael Neill. He shows that just by changing the way we think about something we can change the way we feel inside about it. Much of what we want to change in our lives or have in our lives can be done through developing a practicing discipline and awareness over our minds. Here is a great nugget Michael Neill shares: There is No Stress In Life "The reason I don't promote particular techniques for stress control is because I have come to see a simple truth: There is no stress in life - there is only stress in our thinking When I see that well-being is my nature, the only way I can feel anything other than well is when I am caught up in my own story (thinking). To try and do something to "reduce stress" when it's my own … [Read more...] about Relieving Your Stress